Advice, Inspiration, Lifestyle

(Almost) Quarter Life Crisis

Sunday morning, fall sunlight, 90’s music in the background, wake and bake. What could be better than that right? However, as I sit here, in my new apartment right in the middle of one of the biggest cities in Canada, I can’t help but think “Is this is what adulting is like???”

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See the thing is, no one ever really tells you about the early twenties. All everyone ever talks about, is your prime years being 25-30, getting married and having kids in your thirties while hopefully having discovered your dream career and taking vacations every year to (Insert any tropical island here). So today my friends, we are going to talk about my official almost quarter life crisis.

Being in my early twenties, I feel like (I should be) an adult about 70% of the time, the other percent is represented by me trying to get away with childish tendencies.(Audience laughs). I mean, as much as I am trying not to grow up too fast, I also want to establish myself and create opportunities for myself in this world. In all ways that applies to. BUUT at the same time, I’d rather not deal with figuring out how to get my taxes done or colour co-ordinate my furniture. Sometimes I want to be, just be, without all the complications and responsibilities that come with adulting. For me, growing up has been about creating a home for myself, within myself. But how do you even begin to create something so intangible?

Trying to create a home away from home is all about creating a space that makes sense for you in whatever period of life you are in. Some people even create homes in other people. Being in my early twenties, I have had to think about what a home means to me, and who I am when I leave home. Do/Can I necessarily take it with me? If I plan on taking part in the nomad life for a while, will home be something I have to recreate at each destination? But if we go with the alternative, which is home being a place I can always get back to, then won’t I feel a sense of incompleteness if I’m not at home? I know, these are definitely the kinds of questions everyone should ask themselves on a Sunday morning.

A lot of the times, it’s easy for our minds to rush to the future for what life is going to be like at your “prime”/best years. To quote one of my favourite authors, Eckhart Tolle, “You can always cope with the present moment, but you cannot cope with something that is only a mind projection.” In this case, the mind projection being unnecessary worries about the timeline of life, which is clearly imposed by societal standards. Well, all I have to say is fuck society and its timelines and YES to taking each day as it comes.

At this very moment, on this Sunday morning, I am enjoying my cup of tea while basking in the morning sun. The feeling of home is closer than ever, and being in my early twenties has never felt so good.

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Inspiration, Lookbook

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Summer is FINALLY here. It feels like life has been bestowed back into the world again. With great weather calls for more photoshoots and that means more blog posts. Yay!

Today’s outfit is more on the business casual side, as I find that is the style I lean more towards nowadays. (Does this mean I’m finally becoming an adult?) The era for high waisted shorts and crop tops is coming to a fateful end, as fun as it was. It’s important not to sacrifice comfort for trend. I mean the more comfortable you are in what you wear, the more confident you feel overall.

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Top: Forever21                Trousers: Thrifted

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Blazer: Topshop              Earrings: Forever21

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Shoes: Forever21

This hot weather gives you a great opportunity to experiment with pastel and brighter colours. After realizing that 90% of my wardrobe is black, no shame I had to go out and bring some brighter colours into my life. Learning how to work with a multitude of colours can give your closet more variety when it comes to mix&matching, colour blocking, and self expression in general.

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Gold Crystal Bracelet: Urban Outfitters

 

 

 

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Advice, Inspiration

Life is Cyclic

Happy Saturday my loves, guess who’s back from the depths of the earth after a long long long period of silence! Today, I want to talk about exactly that, something I have been struggling with for some time now. I very much believe in the power of transparency and vulnerability. I hope that sharing my journey with mental illness will inspire others to do the same, and through opening up to one another we can spark conversation and crush the stigma that divides us all.

At the end of the day, none of us are perfect obviously, and we can’t always be happy, joyful or present all the time. We are all struggling with something. When I decided to start a blog, my aim was to connect with and reach an audience, and hopefully inspire people along the way as well. As my blog has grown throughout the past few years, I have found a sense of community, where you can discover that other people are going through the same things that you might be going through, and that you are never alone.

Today, I want to talk about my struggle with depression. Struggling with depression has been incredibly tough and has knocked me down more heavily than I would like to admit. Having grown up in a belief system that mental illnesses are something you just need to “Get over”, I have had to sit down with myself and accept that yes, this struggle is part of my journey, and yes, this is something that I am not ashamed of despite the stigma around it. For all the times when I’ve been told, “Why are you depressed you have so much to be thankful for” or “Why are you always so negative all the time” or “Just calm down and relax and everything will be fine”. For all the times I have felt guilty about being depressed because yes, I do have many many things to be grateful for, but yet I still questioned why I felt that heavy feeling of sadness and dread over my shoulders. It’s important that we educate ourselves on how to approach and have conversations about and with people who are suffering from mental illnesses.

Through my struggle with depression, I have learnt to hold myself, and to comfort myself through the pain. I have learnt to lean on others and be okay with it, I have learnt that getting help when necessary is nothing to be ashamed of, and trusting that I will always find a way to get through it. I have learnt that my depression does not and will never define me, that I am a whole person outside of my trauma and obstacles that I face. I have learnt that yes, it’s completely okay to take some time off from the mediums through which I choose to express myself to the world, such as social media, and even my blog.

Taking time off to take care of yourself is necessary, because as human beings we are constantly giving off our energy into our careers, relationships and friendships. I am lucky enough to have people who support me and push me to be the best version of myself, despite seeing the “not so good” sides.

Life is cyclic, there are days when it’s incredibly hard to get up in the morning, and it’s not because of lack of sleep. There are other days when I can’t wait to see another day and experience the world for all it’s splendour. It’s important that despite everything, we embrace ourselves for who we truly are, in our entirety and not see ourselves as a reflection of our struggles. After all, we are only human, and we are doing our best at it.

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#Travel, Lifestyle

Hello Vancouver

A few weeks ago, I bought a one way ticket, packed up and moved to the west. If you had told me a year ago, hell a few months ago even, that I would be living here I would never have believed it. However, one thing I do believe in is making spontaneous decisions. Without spontaneity, life would simply be boring. Putting yourself in a new environment with unfamiliar faces forces you to adapt to the change. Change. Change is very good. Because without change, there’s no growth. Personally, I felt like I had hit a roadblock with my growth process, not just emotionally, but mentally as well. I needed to challenge my beliefs, question what I thought was right and/or wrong. Rearrange and shift my pieces, in order to see where I really stood.

The first time I visited Vancouver, I was in awe. For a city girl, exploring every nook and cranny of this city has been my goal. Trying out the best restaurants, visiting must see attractions and of course experiencing the night life. I haven’t felt so alive in a long time, and I guess in the end, isn’t that what life is all about?

Of course I took pictures, and narrowed it down to the ones I felt captured the city the best. But obviously y’all got to come see it for yourselves, pictures hardly do any place justice.



 

Until next time,

Cheers!

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August Book Review

Hey y’all! Hope everyone is enjoying their last few summer weeks. For all the bookworms out there, this post is for you! I have been eyeing these books for a super long time since I heard of the spectacular authors behind these masterpieces. Nayyirah waheed is a well known African-American poet who has written two books so far, Salt(2013) and Nejma(2015). (And hopefully many more to come). I discovered Nayyirah on instagram and have fan girled at her poetry ever since. I even went ahead and got a tattoo of my favourite line in her book Nejma( See last picture attached ).

Salt was her the first book to catch my eye, and all I can say is the book sells itself. I had read multiple reviews online before my purchase, and ALL of them were good. And I mean ALL. Honestly this book applies to everyone, not just females. It offers a very unique look into the female mind, more specifically the mind of Nayyirah. She has her way with words, and a simple sentence could make you sit and contemplate for hours. (I did this) This book takes you on a journey through the themes of identity, race, love and feminism.

The second author I’ll be talking about is Ijeoma Umebinyuo, an uprising African poet. Questions for Ada is currently her only published book, but she has been featured in various magazines and has participated in a TEDEX talk. My take on Questions for Ada is that Ijeoma definitely has her own unique raw writing style that captures your attention from beginning to end. She covers various issues such as love, abuse, race and identity.

After Salt was published, Nejma followed two years later, and I think people expected the same kind of poetry that was in Salt, but Nayyirah showed that two different kinds of works can be made from the same writer. Nejma consists of a collection of poems that explores all emotions from angry to tired to peaceful, that leaves you hungry for more.

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Advice, Inspiration, Lifestyle

The Spine of Womanhood

Hey guys! Hope everyone is having an excellent summer afternoon. This blog post will be a little different, as I want to introduce a part of me that I have kept hidden for a while. Most of you know that I love all things writing, but only a few people have read and seen my poetry. Nowadays, with so much discrediting of works of art(completely unnecessary) upcoming writers are more held back and doubtful about putting their work out there. There is such a high standard for poetry that in all honesty not even the best poets can reach. What happened to the days where we would write poems just for the sake of writing?
Everyone is going to have an opinion on everything, and I am tired of hiding that part of myself because I know there are people out there who will relate to my poems. And if you don’t, that’s completely okay too. So here it goes 🙂

When I was five years old
The world through my eyes was a halo of sweet gold
Embodiment of oxygen through my everyday adventures,
Never questioning, doing everything as I was told
I turned ten and my little world started shifting
I would notice how the women in my life were living
Unnoticeable things like,
How they always held the household on their spines
How they were expected to bend over backwards , everyone else had to come first
yet themselves lagging in last
As if womanhood came with a one way ticket to paradise, as long as we left our needs behind
How they slaved over men, men that should have deemed themselves lucky to be in presence of such queens
For without them the earth would crumble
The earth would shake
Chaos.
After two decades soon passed
I was a woman now
Head turning hips
Magnetic lips
And a figure that God moulded himself,
A dash of beauty here, A mix of greatness there
As a woman, these expectations that had befallen the women before me
And that will continue to cast a shadow over the women after me soon arised
Viona,
Remember to always keep your legs closed and your books open
Because a woman is not allowed to explore her sexuality the same way a man does,
And still be considered as educated
And still want to be appreciated
Yet still demanding to be respected
Our value as human beings is placed on how many men we fuck by men who fuck women over as a hobby
Our one priority is only to procreate and our pleasure comes last if it cums at all
Tell me again how my value as a being is lessened twicefold,
Just because I choose to be as free as the birds in the sky,
And as threatening as the wind
It was said long ago that the moon would admire how unapologetic the waves moved as she spoke to the sea
The moon loved the sea from a distance, letting her be everything she was with no judgment
What changed?
They don’t understand that our bodies belong to us, and they should be grateful for having a glimpse of the paradise that we choose to offer them
My body will not be a hole that you can dump yourself into when you feel the world has forgotten you
My body will not be a pit stop for when you’re on your long journey home
My body is the home
That nourishes and feeds the soul
My body brings life
The life that mother nature herself breathes into the flowers, the birds, the trees
So next time anyone utters to us what a woman should and shouldn’t be
What we can and can’t do
Simply tell their words to flutter wings
And fly somewhere else
Because those words are not welcomed here

-The spine of womanhood

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Indulge, Lifestyle

Light Cafe

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Happy 2017 everyone! Hope this new year has been treating you all well so far. One of my goals this year was to to go out and explore Toronto more, as much as I can in the little time that I have left. So me and a friend of mine decided to brave the minus degree weather(actually ridiculous) and go out to one of the most popular go-to places for food and coffee. The place was too cute not to take some shots for you guys.

Being an avid tea drinker, the first thing I wanted to try on their menu was the Chamomile Herbal Tea with Fruit. This warms you right up and makes you feel all fuzzy on the inside.


A moment of silence for this being the best sandwich I’ve ever had.

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We obviously had to try out the dessert and we went for the Creme Brulee Three Ways. This had earl grey, white chocolate and coffee.

Overall, this restaurant is definitely worth adding to your list of places to try in Toronto. Until next time!

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