Advice, Inspiration, Lifestyle

The Spine of Womanhood

Hey guys! Hope everyone is having an excellent summer afternoon. This blog post will be a little different, as I want to introduce a part of me that I have kept hidden for a while. Most of you know that I love all things writing, but only a few people have read and seen my poetry. Nowadays, with so much discrediting of works of art(completely unnecessary) upcoming writers are more held back and doubtful about putting their work out there. There is such a high standard for poetry that in all honesty not even the best poets can reach. What happened to the days where we would write poems just for the sake of writing?
Everyone is going to have an opinion on everything, and I am tired of hiding that part of myself because I know there are people out there who will relate to my poems. And if you don’t, that’s completely okay too. So here it goes ūüôā

When I was five years old
The world through my eyes was a halo of sweet gold
Embodiment of oxygen through my everyday adventures,
Never questioning, doing everything as I was told
I turned ten and my little world started shifting
I would notice how the women in my life were living
Unnoticeable things like,
How they always held the household on their spines
How they were expected to bend over backwards , everyone else had to come first
yet themselves lagging in last
As if womanhood came with a one way ticket to paradise, as long as we left our needs behind
How they slaved over men, men that should have deemed themselves lucky to be in presence of such queens
For without them the earth would crumble
The earth would shake
Chaos.
After two decades soon passed
I was a woman now
Head turning hips
Magnetic lips
And a figure that God moulded himself,
A dash of beauty here, A mix of greatness there
As a woman, these expectations that had befallen the women before me
And that will continue to cast a shadow over the women after me soon arised
Viona,
Remember to always keep your legs closed and your books open
Because a woman is not allowed to explore her sexuality the same way a man does,
And still be considered as educated
And still want to be appreciated
Yet still demanding to be respected
Our value as human beings is placed on how many men we fuck by men who fuck women over as a hobby
Our one priority is only to procreate and our pleasure comes last if it cums at all
Tell me again how my value as a being is lessened twicefold,
Just because I choose to be as free as the birds in the sky,
And as threatening as the wind
It was said long ago that the moon would admire how unapologetic the waves moved as she spoke to the sea
The moon loved the sea from a distance, letting her be everything she was with no judgment
What changed?
They don’t understand that our bodies belong to us, and they should be grateful for having a glimpse of the paradise that we choose to offer them
My body will not be a hole that you can dump yourself into when you feel the world has forgotten you
My body will not be a pit stop for when you’re on your long journey home
My body is the home
That nourishes and feeds the soul
My body brings life
The life that mother nature herself breathes into the flowers, the birds, the trees
So next time anyone utters to us what a woman should and shouldn’t be
What we can and can’t do
Simply tell their words to flutter wings
And fly somewhere else
Because those words are not welcomed here

-The spine of womanhood

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Indulge, Lifestyle

Light Cafe

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Happy 2017 everyone! Hope this new year has been treating you all well so far. One of my goals this year was to to go out and explore Toronto more, as much as I can in the little time that I have left. So me and a friend of mine decided to brave the minus degree weather(actually ridiculous) and go out to one of the most popular go-to places for food and coffee. The place was too cute not to take some shots for you guys.

Being an avid tea drinker, the first thing I wanted to try on their menu was the Chamomile Herbal Tea with Fruit. This warms you right up and makes you feel all fuzzy on the inside.


A moment of silence for this being the best sandwich I’ve ever had.

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We obviously had to try out the dessert and we went for the Creme Brulee Three Ways. This had earl grey, white chocolate and coffee.

Overall, this restaurant is definitely worth adding to your list of places to try in Toronto. Until next time!

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Lookbook

Peachy browns

 

August is finally here, but where did the summer go?? I still clearly remember walking out of school reminiscing on my first year experience, and in less than three weeks I’ll be going back. A lot of changes have been happening, including dyeing my hair, and it turning orange-was supposed to be red( I cried many tears) But it washed out to this blood orange colour that I actually don’t mind. However, with this colour, I have to be wary of the kind of bright colours I wear, because no one wants to look like a crayon. For today’s outfit, I went with a peachy coloured shirt and paired it with brown shorts, which complemented it very well. I added a few extra pieces like the cardigan and hat in basic colours as not to take away from the colour scheme.

Shorts: Garage   Shoes: CallItSpring   Bag: Forever21

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Inspirations, Lifestyle

Beauty in the eye of the beholder?

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The concept of beauty is one that has been thrown around, mixed up and twisted into something everyone seems to want, because for some odd reason it has been engrained in us that only some people posses it. That it is selective. I could come up with all kinds of unnecessary and undeserving words that are used nowadays in place of this one worded compliment.

Instead, I have come up with things and moments that I personally consider beautiful,

  1. Witnessing someone laugh so hard that their stomach hurts because just for a second, you were able to make them forget about everything going on in their life.
  2. The feeling when the seed you planted grows into an actual plant, and you feel a certain responsibility to the little living thing
  3. When a mother first sees and holds her baby, a bond that can never be reciprocated.
  4. The sound of a child’s laugh, a reminder that there’s still good in this world.
  5. When young love is still present in an old couple.
  6. The smell before and after it rains.
  7. When a stranger smiles and says hi to you on the street
  8. Going for a night drive with your friends and singing along to the blasting music
  9. The first time being in a new country and realizing how much more of the world you need to see
  10. Running into an old friend in the most random and unexpected places.
  11. Looking at old photos and nostalgia hitting you, because you didn’t realize how much time changes things
  12. Waking up before the sunrise and feeling like you’re the only one awake lucky enough to witness it’s magnificence.

Obviously those are just but a few of the beauty in things or moments that happen in everyday life. The word beautiful is so vast and infinite that we cannot shrink it to the common ideals of today’s “perfect”standards. Do we really want to live in a world where,  only some people fit this “perfection” while the rest of us are always going to be longing or trying to reach this high set and unrealistic standard? I know I don’t.

The phrase beauty is in the eye of the beholder, can be interpreted in many ways, but how I see it, is that what someone considers beautiful is their view and only their view. This has nothing to do with the person or thing necessarily being “viewed”. One of my favourite quotes on this topic is from a well known blogger and inspiration, “If someone suggests that you aren’t beautiful, you can consider how sad it is that they have such a limited view of beauty. You can consider how unfortunate it is that they have such an exaggerated sense of self importance that they think you should care about what they think. You can also choose to realize that it has nothing to do with your beauty and everything to do with their limitations”- Ragen Chastain

To close off this already long post for today, I want to encourage all of us to first manifest and work on noticing the beauty within ourselves, instead of solely depending on other people’s compliments and words of flattery. An amazing sense of wholeness will emerge out of this, and only then are we able to share our beauty with others.

Until next time!

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Inspirations, Lookbook

Style Series: Part 3

Hello lovelies! If you’re not familiar with my Style series, it’s when different people, each with their individual style are featured on this blog every month. It gives a really unique perspective on how each person views and showcases their style. For this month’s style series we have one a good friend of mine whom I met this year and whose style I’ve always been lowkey jealous of (I know she’ll probably read this but whatever). Her style can be described as loose, light and minimalistic. Don’t let the smile fool you, the sun was literally melting our faces when we took these.

Name: Tamara Alissa

Program and year of study: Kinesiology (First Year)

Hometown: Toronto

Where do you get your inspiration from? No one specific, but I like to feel fluid in the places I hang around the most like Kensington market. There’s this communal dress code around there that I unknowingly fall into which I’m totally cool with because it compliments my daily life and it’s comfortable and cheap

Favourite Clothing Store? Black market or H&M. I generally like the rustic feel so I love second hand clothes.

Any Fashion pet peeves? Overly tight clothing!! It’s hard to rock an outfit that’s got a tight top and a tight bottom, in my opinion it’s nice to contrast tops or bottoms with something free and loose. But if you can rock leather leggings and a tight tank top then that’s awesome too!

Any advice for the readers? Take the time to wear things that tell a story, that reflect what you would wear during your hobbies. For example when I’m painting I always wear loose jeans. When I’m wearing them outside, I feel like I’m myself/at home and it’s mentally comforting if that makes sense.

Check out Tamara’s instagram here

Shirt: Zara  Pants: H&M  Bag: Black market

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Lifestyle

Weekend Vibes


Happy monday yall! Mondays are never happy but the sun is out and summer has never felt so good. It’s safe to pretend we don’t know what day it is.

This past weekend I was down at my cottage in Bruce Peninsula area, and we decided to take a little trip to the Tobermory harbour. Obviously I went into tourist mode and I took a few(a lot) pictures of the view. The place has a really layed back vibe plus the weather was A-mazing.

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Advice

Advice series

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Hey guys! I was recently reflecting on my first year experience and wow did it fly by.. I still remember move in day, when my mother dropped me off, I remember how nervous and excited I felt, and I remember what I thought university was going to be isn’t what it ended up being like. So for this week’s post I wanted to try something a little different. I thought it would be really fun to do an advice series where I talk about stuff and give tips that might be of help to you guys!
To start off, I have come up with things I’ve learnt from first year, just to help some of you guys who might be going into college or university this fall, or just to anyone in general ūüôā I suggest getting comfortable, this is gonna be a long one!


Yep we gotta start with this one. I know you’ve probably heard this a million times from other people, ITS TRU GUYS TRUST ME. I learnt this the hard way, through half assing studying for exams and completing assignments. I mean this totally gave me pretty good grades in high school. But I’ve come close to failing tests just because I didn’t put in 100% effort that I REALLY SHOULD HAVE. I totally understand the fact that you want to experience as much as possible and be involved in everything you can. The truth is, you went to uni/college for a reason, paying an arm and leg just to be there, and it’s something you always have to remind yourself. Totally get out there and have a good time, BUUT make school a priority.


You know that chess club that you really wanted to join in high school but were scared because none of your friends were in it? Or that anime club that you desperately wanted to be a part of but you were scared people were going to make fun of you? Well I’m telling you if there is ever a time to do whatever the f*** you always wanted to do, it’s when you get to university. Being scared because you might get judged or because you don’t know anyone there yet are just silly excuses. JUST DO IT. You end up making new friends who share the same interests as you, andd you get to do what you love, whether it’s sport teams, or hobbies. Win win for you.


I understand the nervousness and excitement of wanting to make friends as fast as possible and make as many as possible right on your first day, I totally do. What you have to realize is that YOU WILL NOT CLICK WITH EVERY SINGLE PERSON YOU MEET. And when this does happen, don’t beat yourself up over it, the vibe just isn’t there so don’t try to force anything. Having a positive attitude about everything and an open mind while getting to know someone will go a long way. Whatever friendships you do make, work on them and just enjoy the time getting to know the other person! Don’t feel as if you have to be absolute best friends by the second week( I mean if you are that’s great). But the best friendships happen in the most natural ways possible, where you don’t see it coming and next thing you know, you guys are inseparable.


New beginnings doesn’t mean forget about everyone else who’s been there for you till now. Whether it be your parents or guardians, or even your friends, a phonecall every now and then makes the biggest difference. As you’re bringing all these new people into your life, don’t forget about the ones you left behind. Even if you do commute back home everyday, schedule time to spend with your family, grandparents, or a friend you haven’t talked to in a while.


I cannot address this enough, leave all the unnecessary drama in high school. Going to university or college marks a big step in your life, where you have to start dealing with things in a more mature way(Omg I sound like a mom..) If someone offfends you orr does something hurtful, DO NOT a) Start subtweets on twitter b) Start beef on facebook c) Start a full on in person fight d) Spread any rumours. Like come on, we’re not in eighth grade, there are other ways of handling a situation other than lashing out on people or on social media. You don’t want your first year experience to be filled with negativity and a bad reputation for starting drama.


This is completely unavoidable. People you may have started the year with might not be the same people you end the year with. Your circle will get smaller, or bigger, and the more people you meet, the more selective you will become about who you chose to spend time with. ¬†Learning how to let go of people who don’t help you move forward in any way will be a key thing to do, not only during first year, but also for the rest of your university experience. The best thing is to let life work itself out, and you won’t even have to fight for the people who should be in it.


The most important one of all (Other than not getting kicked out of school) is to get out there, have an amazing time and do not care about what anyone thinks or what anyone will say. Everyone is so busy doing their own thing, that no one has time to sit there and judge your every move. If you wanna dress a certain way, go for it! If you wanna try out new sports, teams, that new hairstyle, HELL YEAHH. This is your time, your experience, and ultimately your life.

Until next time!

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