#Travel, Lifestyle

An Ode to Going Back Home

To all my fellow immigrants,

Who left a part of themselves back home,

I see you.

I know the feeling of leaving all the love that is back home and venturing into a foreign land that may or may not accept you.

I know the feeling of yearning,

Yearning for the familiarity that you grew up with.

Longing for the friendly neighbour who lived down the street from you,

The neighbour who would let you pick mangoes from their tree.

Missing the aunty (who was not really your aunty) who lives up the hill,

The aunty who knew all the details about your life and accepted you as their own.

Yearning for your grandmother’s food,

Food that nourished your soul in no other way anything could.

I know that sometimes, you ask yourself if going abroad was worth losing all that for a while.

I mean, we are always told that the grass is greener as soon as you board that plane,

But you learn that the grass has always been green at home.

The earth has always been rich,

Your ancestors’ energy has always been the strongest.

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It felt so good to be back home.

It felt like this is what my body has been telling me to do since I left.

To come back home.

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To all my fellow immigrants,

Take pieces of your home with you.

Pictures, jewelry, recipes, anything.

If you haven’t called your grandparents in a while, just know they miss you, and they love you. So call them.

And lastly,

Try visiting if you can. Go back and remind yourself that you have a place that will always accept you. A place that will always have love for you.

A place that you can always call home.

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Advice, Lifestyle

Fragility in the Modern Age

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Someone once told me, the ability for one to feel and to display vulnerability and emotional fragility, is a pure display of the epitome of human existence. Darwin’s theory of evolution aside, the complexities of human emotion and the innate ability to discern these emotions is our super power. In this day and age, we have inherently managed to strip a part of our humanity away by trying to numb our emotions as much as possible, lest we are perceived as ‘weak’. Love, anger, happiness, hate, passion etc. These are all waves of energy moving in and out of a bigger wave of energy known as the human body. With humans being considered top of the food chain, we could really learn a lot from our fellow animal species. For instance, if we spent a day in the life of a puppy, you’ll notice in awe at how they are fully able to dive into their emotional energy. This allows them to exist completely in the present. That’s what real living is. Time non-existent, heart open, using emotions as an extension of our deepest core that would otherwise never get the chance to be expressed.

No one really knows why we’re here, or even what ‘here’ is. All we can be sure of, is what we feel, and what we do with what we feel. We are in the age of mistrusting what we feel. We question, we deny, we distract. However, the body never lies. If you listen closely, your body will tell you everything you need to know. When we really tune into the energetic humming of our heartbeat, our breath, our senses, at that moment, nothing else really matters.

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Emotional vulnerability is not and never will be a weakness. In-fact, it’s a bridge that connects us human beings by extending those deeper ties. Now, I should probably address the elephant in the room. One of the main reasons people fear being vulnerable,  is the possibility of them being hurt in any way. This possibility far outweighs the benefits of having a life changing connection with someone through emotional vulnerability. We(or dare I say our egos) are so afraid of being rejected & hurt that we have become capable of coexisting while successfully dodging  intimacy. Yes of course there is going to be rejection and everyone is going to get hurt at the hands of someone else. That’s one of the inevitable conditions that accompanies life’s one way ticket. But being hurt due to having a deep emotional connection with someone does not diminish the existence of that experience and the lessons that you could learn from it.  The human experience is laden with connections. These connections allow us to learn from each other by learning about each other. Personally, being a very passionate person about a lot of things, emotional vulnerability comes very easy to me (Too easy sometimes). However, I can confidently say that it’s these emotional connections I’ve had that have taught me the significant lessons I needed to learn.

So my friend, I urge you to remain open. It will be a whirlwind at first, learning how to feel. But humans endured building Rome for 276 years, I’m sure you can handle a whirlwind of emotions.

Until next time,

Vi.

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Advice, Inspiration, Lifestyle

(Almost) Quarter Life Crisis

Sunday morning, fall sunlight, 90’s music in the background, wake and bake. What could be better than that right? However, as I sit here, in my new apartment right in the middle of one of the biggest cities in Canada, I can’t help but think “Is this is what adulting is like???”

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See the thing is, no one ever really tells you about the early twenties. All everyone ever talks about, is your prime years being 25-30, getting married and having kids in your thirties while hopefully having discovered your dream career and taking vacations every year to (Insert any tropical island here). So today my friends, we are going to talk about my official almost quarter life crisis.

Being in my early twenties, I feel like (I should be) an adult about 70% of the time, the other percent is represented by me trying to get away with childish tendencies.(Audience laughs). I mean, as much as I am trying not to grow up too fast, I also want to establish myself and create opportunities for myself in this world. In all ways that applies to. BUUT at the same time, I’d rather not deal with figuring out how to get my taxes done or colour co-ordinate my furniture. Sometimes I want to be, just be, without all the complications and responsibilities that come with adulting. For me, growing up has been about creating a home for myself, within myself. But how do you even begin to create something so intangible?

Trying to create a home away from home is all about creating a space that makes sense for you in whatever period of life you are in. Some people even create homes in other people. Being in my early twenties, I have had to think about what a home means to me, and who I am when I leave home. Do/Can I necessarily take it with me? If I plan on taking part in the nomad life for a while, will home be something I have to recreate at each destination? But if we go with the alternative, which is home being a place I can always get back to, then won’t I feel a sense of incompleteness if I’m not at home? I know, these are definitely the kinds of questions everyone should ask themselves on a Sunday morning.

A lot of the times, it’s easy for our minds to rush to the future for what life is going to be like at your “prime”/best years. To quote one of my favourite authors, Eckhart Tolle, “You can always cope with the present moment, but you cannot cope with something that is only a mind projection.” In this case, the mind projection being unnecessary worries about the timeline of life, which is clearly imposed by societal standards. Well, all I have to say is fuck society and its timelines and YES to taking each day as it comes.

At this very moment, on this Sunday morning, I am enjoying my cup of tea while basking in the morning sun. The feeling of home is closer than ever, and being in my early twenties has never felt so good.

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#Travel, Lifestyle

Hello Vancouver

A few weeks ago, I bought a one way ticket, packed up and moved to the west. If you had told me a year ago, hell a few months ago even, that I would be living here I would never have believed it. However, one thing I do believe in is making spontaneous decisions. Without spontaneity, life would simply be boring. Putting yourself in a new environment with unfamiliar faces forces you to adapt to the change. Change. Change is very good. Because without change, there’s no growth. Personally, I felt like I had hit a roadblock with my growth process, not just emotionally, but mentally as well. I needed to challenge my beliefs, question what I thought was right and/or wrong. Rearrange and shift my pieces, in order to see where I really stood.

The first time I visited Vancouver, I was in awe. For a city girl, exploring every nook and cranny of this city has been my goal. Trying out the best restaurants, visiting must see attractions and of course experiencing the night life. I haven’t felt so alive in a long time, and I guess in the end, isn’t that what life is all about?

Of course I took pictures, and narrowed it down to the ones I felt captured the city the best. But obviously y’all got to come see it for yourselves, pictures hardly do any place justice.



 

Until next time,

Cheers!

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The Spine of Womanhood

Hey guys! Hope everyone is having an excellent summer afternoon. This blog post will be a little different, as I want to introduce a part of me that I have kept hidden for a while. Most of you know that I love all things writing, but only a few people have read and seen my poetry. Nowadays, with so much discrediting of works of art(completely unnecessary) upcoming writers are more held back and doubtful about putting their work out there. There is such a high standard for poetry that in all honesty not even the best poets can reach. What happened to the days where we would write poems just for the sake of writing?
Everyone is going to have an opinion on everything, and I am tired of hiding that part of myself because I know there are people out there who will relate to my poems. And if you don’t, that’s completely okay too. So here it goes 🙂

When I was five years old
The world through my eyes was a halo of sweet gold
Embodiment of oxygen through my everyday adventures,
Never questioning, doing everything as I was told
I turned ten and my little world started shifting
I would notice how the women in my life were living
Unnoticeable things like,
How they always held the household on their spines
How they were expected to bend over backwards , everyone else had to come first
yet themselves lagging in last
As if womanhood came with a one way ticket to paradise, as long as we left our needs behind
How they slaved over men, men that should have deemed themselves lucky to be in presence of such queens
For without them the earth would crumble
The earth would shake
Chaos.
After two decades soon passed
I was a woman now
Head turning hips
Magnetic lips
And a figure that God moulded himself,
A dash of beauty here, A mix of greatness there
As a woman, these expectations that had befallen the women before me
And that will continue to cast a shadow over the women after me soon arised
Viona,
Remember to always keep your legs closed and your books open
Because a woman is not allowed to explore her sexuality the same way a man does,
And still be considered as educated
And still want to be appreciated
Yet still demanding to be respected
Our value as human beings is placed on how many men we fuck by men who fuck women over as a hobby
Our one priority is only to procreate and our pleasure comes last if it cums at all
Tell me again how my value as a being is lessened twicefold,
Just because I choose to be as free as the birds in the sky,
And as threatening as the wind
It was said long ago that the moon would admire how unapologetic the waves moved as she spoke to the sea
The moon loved the sea from a distance, letting her be everything she was with no judgment
What changed?
They don’t understand that our bodies belong to us, and they should be grateful for having a glimpse of the paradise that we choose to offer them
My body will not be a hole that you can dump yourself into when you feel the world has forgotten you
My body will not be a pit stop for when you’re on your long journey home
My body is the home
That nourishes and feeds the soul
My body brings life
The life that mother nature herself breathes into the flowers, the birds, the trees
So next time anyone utters to us what a woman should and shouldn’t be
What we can and can’t do
Simply tell their words to flutter wings
And fly somewhere else
Because those words are not welcomed here

-The spine of womanhood

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Indulge, Lifestyle

Light Cafe

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Happy 2017 everyone! Hope this new year has been treating you all well so far. One of my goals this year was to to go out and explore Toronto more, as much as I can in the little time that I have left. So me and a friend of mine decided to brave the minus degree weather(actually ridiculous) and go out to one of the most popular go-to places for food and coffee. The place was too cute not to take some shots for you guys.

Being an avid tea drinker, the first thing I wanted to try on their menu was the Chamomile Herbal Tea with Fruit. This warms you right up and makes you feel all fuzzy on the inside.


A moment of silence for this being the best sandwich I’ve ever had.

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We obviously had to try out the dessert and we went for the Creme Brulee Three Ways. This had earl grey, white chocolate and coffee.

Overall, this restaurant is definitely worth adding to your list of places to try in Toronto. Until next time!

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Beauty in the eye of the beholder?

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The concept of beauty is one that has been thrown around, mixed up and twisted into something everyone seems to want, because for some odd reason it has been engrained in us that only some people posses it. That it is selective. I could come up with all kinds of unnecessary and undeserving words that are used nowadays in place of this one worded compliment.

Instead, I have come up with things and moments that I personally consider beautiful,

  1. Witnessing someone laugh so hard that their stomach hurts because just for a second, you were able to make them forget about everything going on in their life.
  2. The feeling when the seed you planted grows into an actual plant, and you feel a certain responsibility to the little living thing
  3. When a mother first sees and holds her baby, a bond that can never be reciprocated.
  4. The sound of a child’s laugh, a reminder that there’s still good in this world.
  5. When young love is still present in an old couple.
  6. The smell before and after it rains.
  7. When a stranger smiles and says hi to you on the street
  8. Going for a night drive with your friends and singing along to the blasting music
  9. The first time being in a new country and realizing how much more of the world you need to see
  10. Running into an old friend in the most random and unexpected places.
  11. Looking at old photos and nostalgia hitting you, because you didn’t realize how much time changes things
  12. Waking up before the sunrise and feeling like you’re the only one awake lucky enough to witness it’s magnificence.

Obviously those are just but a few of the beauty in things or moments that happen in everyday life. The word beautiful is so vast and infinite that we cannot shrink it to the common ideals of today’s “perfect”standards. Do we really want to live in a world where,  only some people fit this “perfection” while the rest of us are always going to be longing or trying to reach this high set and unrealistic standard? I know I don’t.

The phrase beauty is in the eye of the beholder, can be interpreted in many ways, but how I see it, is that what someone considers beautiful is their view and only their view. This has nothing to do with the person or thing necessarily being “viewed”. One of my favourite quotes on this topic is from a well known blogger and inspiration, “If someone suggests that you aren’t beautiful, you can consider how sad it is that they have such a limited view of beauty. You can consider how unfortunate it is that they have such an exaggerated sense of self importance that they think you should care about what they think. You can also choose to realize that it has nothing to do with your beauty and everything to do with their limitations”- Ragen Chastain

To close off this already long post for today, I want to encourage all of us to first manifest and work on noticing the beauty within ourselves, instead of solely depending on other people’s compliments and words of flattery. An amazing sense of wholeness will emerge out of this, and only then are we able to share our beauty with others.

Until next time!

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