Hey guys! I was recently reflecting on my first year experience and wow did it fly by.. I still remember move in day, when my mother dropped me off, I remember how nervous and excited I felt, and I remember what I thought university was going to be isn’t what it ended up being like. So for this week’s post I wanted to try something a little different. I thought it would be really fun to do an advice series where I talk about stuff and give tips that might be of help to you guys!
To start off, I have come up with things I’ve learnt from first year, just to help some of you guys who might be going into college or university this fall, or just to anyone in general 🙂 I suggest getting comfortable, this is gonna be a long one!
Yep we gotta start with this one. I know you’ve probably heard this a million times from other people, ITS TRU GUYS TRUST ME. I learnt this the hard way, through half assing studying for exams and completing assignments. I mean this totally gave me pretty good grades in high school. But I’ve come close to failing tests just because I didn’t put in 100% effort that I REALLY SHOULD HAVE. I totally understand the fact that you want to experience as much as possible and be involved in everything you can. The truth is, you went to uni/college for a reason, paying an arm and leg just to be there, and it’s something you always have to remind yourself. Totally get out there and have a good time, BUUT make school a priority.
You know that chess club that you really wanted to join in high school but were scared because none of your friends were in it? Or that anime club that you desperately wanted to be a part of but you were scared people were going to make fun of you? Well I’m telling you if there is ever a time to do whatever the f*** you always wanted to do, it’s when you get to university. Being scared because you might get judged or because you don’t know anyone there yet are just silly excuses. JUST DO IT. You end up making new friends who share the same interests as you, andd you get to do what you love, whether it’s sport teams, or hobbies. Win win for you.
I understand the nervousness and excitement of wanting to make friends as fast as possible and make as many as possible right on your first day, I totally do. What you have to realize is that YOU WILL NOT CLICK WITH EVERY SINGLE PERSON YOU MEET. And when this does happen, don’t beat yourself up over it, the vibe just isn’t there so don’t try to force anything. Having a positive attitude about everything and an open mind while getting to know someone will go a long way. Whatever friendships you do make, work on them and just enjoy the time getting to know the other person! Don’t feel as if you have to be absolute best friends by the second week( I mean if you are that’s great). But the best friendships happen in the most natural ways possible, where you don’t see it coming and next thing you know, you guys are inseparable.
New beginnings doesn’t mean forget about everyone else who’s been there for you till now. Whether it be your parents or guardians, or even your friends, a phonecall every now and then makes the biggest difference. As you’re bringing all these new people into your life, don’t forget about the ones you left behind. Even if you do commute back home everyday, schedule time to spend with your family, grandparents, or a friend you haven’t talked to in a while.
I cannot address this enough, leave all the unnecessary drama in high school. Going to university or college marks a big step in your life, where you have to start dealing with things in a more mature way(Omg I sound like a mom..) If someone offfends you orr does something hurtful, DO NOT a) Start subtweets on twitter b) Start beef on facebook c) Start a full on in person fight d) Spread any rumours. Like come on, we’re not in eighth grade, there are other ways of handling a situation other than lashing out on people or on social media. You don’t want your first year experience to be filled with negativity and a bad reputation for starting drama.
This is completely unavoidable. People you may have started the year with might not be the same people you end the year with. Your circle will get smaller, or bigger, and the more people you meet, the more selective you will become about who you chose to spend time with. Learning how to let go of people who don’t help you move forward in any way will be a key thing to do, not only during first year, but also for the rest of your university experience. The best thing is to let life work itself out, and you won’t even have to fight for the people who should be in it.
The most important one of all (Other than not getting kicked out of school) is to get out there, have an amazing time and do not care about what anyone thinks or what anyone will say. Everyone is so busy doing their own thing, that no one has time to sit there and judge your every move. If you wanna dress a certain way, go for it! If you wanna try out new sports, teams, that new hairstyle, HELL YEAHH. This is your time, your experience, and ultimately your life.
Until next time!